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Football, being a real man, soldier-ing


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  • #305537

    TimB
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    Oneguy,  You should worship me as a “real man”, if you think depositing semen into a large number of willing women  by your age or younger, supports that title. (and that was before the days when you could just get on your smartphone and find the night’s hookup by swiping left, or however that goes)

    But I get it.  Your testosterone is pretty much what you have that makes you feel special.

     

    #305617

    Xain
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    Speaking from personal experience, the “manly men” is not the thing that women are after in this day and age. It’s more about shared interests and compatibility. Most of the guys I have seen that act the way you envision don’t have long lasting or fulfilling relationships. I think I man is someone who is confident but knows his limits and when to push and when to accept. He is capable and at least tries before saying he can’t hack it. Most of all, he’s not trying to prove something to everyone else. Of course being in touch with his emotions is valuable too, and yes men are more than capable of that.

    I think Guy has a flawed view of man based on the modern definition of manliness. Our ancient ancestors weren’t like that.

    #305619

    TimB
    Participant

    It’s nice to have your input on a non-ethereal topic, Xain.

    #305621

    Lausten
    Participant

    He is capable and at least tries before saying he can’t hack it. Most of all, he’s not trying to prove something to everyone else.

    Yes, well said.

    #305623

    thatoneguy
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    Speaking from personal experience, the “manly men” is not the thing that women are after in this day and age. It’s more about shared interests and compatibility. Most of the guys I have seen that act the way you envision don’t have long lasting or fulfilling relationships. I think I man is someone who is confident but knows his limits and when to push and when to accept. He is capable and at least tries before saying he can’t hack it. Most of all, he’s not trying to prove something to everyone else. Of course being in touch with his emotions is valuable too, and yes men are more than capable of that.

    Aren’t you gay? (No offense).

    In my experience as a 30-something guy who has been around the world all young women are turned on by men who are confident, strong, and charming.  They might want to be friends with guys that aren’t those things but they aren’t sexually attracted to them.

    Of course “compatibility” is important but that is somewhat overrated as most men and women are fairly compatible to begin with. I like to focus on “chemistry” instead.

    Generally agree with you on confidence but here’s the thing: confidence is something  you either have or you don’t. Being confident and failing sometimes is still far better than lacking confidence.

    I think Guy has a flawed view of man based on the modern definition of manliness. Our ancient ancestors weren’t like that.

    If anything ancient men were a more extreme version of my description.

     

    #305628

    thatoneguy
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    Oneguy,  You should worship me as a “real man”, if you think depositing semen into a large number of willing women  by your age or younger, supports that title. (and that was before the days when you could just get on your smartphone and find the night’s hookup by swiping left, or however that goes)

    But no family, right?(And the women on dating apps are usually ugly and crazier than average . I’m spoken for anyway).

    But I get it.  Your testosterone is pretty much what you have that makes you feel special.

    Well, I can’t deny testosterone has done a lot for me.

    #305633

    thatoneguy
    Participant

    That Guy if you’re only interested in denigrating, then your statements become worthless word plays divorced from reality and any interest in seeking understanding.  All your energy seems focused on reinforcing your own certitude, rather than learning anything new.  Easy to do when you reside within your own self-certain bubble.

     

    I’d actually had something slightly loftier in mind with this thread, but when it’s a pissing contest it’s tough to get out of the gutter.

    The real key I’d intended to work this conversation towards was PLURALISM – although now that I’ve taken the trouble to look it up, it turns our somewhat different from what I was taught way back.  I’ve always thought Pluralism was about diverse groups of people living within society that respects each others’ strengths and weakness, we need the warrior as much as the worker, etc, etc.  The idilic American melting pot and democratic process when people actually got involved and before we got too crowded and scared and hypnotized into becoming cogs in a machine.

    https://www1.udel.edu/htr/Psc105/Texts/pluralism.html

    Pluralism is the theory that a multitude of groups, not the people as a whole, govern the United States. These organizations, which include among others unions, trade and professional associations, environmentalists, civil rights activists, business and financial lobbies, and formal and informal coalitions of like-minded citizens, influence the making and administration of laws and policy. Since the participants in this process constitute only a tiny fraction of the populace, the public acts mainly as bystanders.
    Unfortunately a part of me can’t help but agree that most voters seem too dumb and disinterested for the duty of voting competently & responsibility – but that gets us into a different can of worms, where all the solutions seem to promise even worse problems than the original problem.

    Both pluralism as social diversity and this theory probably only work in small doses.  As for voters being too dumb to vote competently………well that’s always been a big problem democracy hasn’t it — especially in an extremely diverse democracy like the USA.

    So I guess it’s the shallow adulation of our military to the exclusion of everything else that has me irritated; tree hugger belong in Hell – warriors and football players and consumerism makes Merica Great, that sort of nonsense.

    The over the top worship of the military since 2001 has been absurd, though it’s nowhere near as bad as it was 10 years ago. Most veterans (including myself) chalked it up to civilians just saying what they thought we wanted to hear and didn’t hold it against them. The military is pretty far removed from most Americans and people felt good about making some little effort to acknowledge there were two wars going on, but it quickly turned into a charade and now it’s just lame. Society has largely moved on from the GWOT and rightly so.

    Sports is entertainment for a lot of people and there’s no harm in that. Ratings have been steadily declining over the past few years anyway.

    America has always been more about brawn than brain but this stuff plays a small role in what most people see as important. I’d say financial freedom and personal freedom are probably what most Americans would place at the top.

    #305634

    TimB
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    So how would you suggest that civilians react to veterans?  Pretend they didn’t do anything special?  I can do that.  Just so we don’t go to the other end of the spectrum e.g., full Viet Nam era spitting on them.

     

    I do like football.  Tho I think that the ones who get brain damage from it are undercompensated.

    #305683

    Xain
    Participant

    You’re experience is again wrong and outdated.

    I have seen all kinds of relationships and it’s not the manly men that last. Also confidence is a skill/trait that anyone can develop. It’s not a “you have it or not”, but it being a turn on is across all groups.

    #305695

    Guy would you know the difference between a real woman and one who’s playing you for what she can get out of you?

     

    I agree with Tim and Lausten, well said Xain!

    #305740

    thatoneguy
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    Guy would you know the difference between a real woman and one who’s playing you for what she can get out of you?

    (Posted a reply earlier but it went to the Trump news thread)

    Yes, I’ve been there before.

    #305741

    thatoneguy
    Participant

    So how would you suggest that civilians react to veterans?  Pretend they didn’t do anything special?  I can do that.  Just so we don’t go to the other end of the spectrum e.g., full Viet Nam era spitting on them.

    If you don’t know any personally but want to mention something, a “welcome home” is good enough.

    #305742

    thatoneguy
    Participant

    You’re experience is again wrong and outdated.

    I have seen all kinds of relationships and it’s not the manly men that last. Also confidence is a skill/trait that anyone can develop. It’s not a “you have it or not”, but it being a turn on is across all groups.

    Lol OK.

    #305756

    I bet you have Guy.  Bet it would be a blast spending an evening at the bar hearing all about it.

    But of course, we know in the real world there are all sorts of women.  Even including the hardened bike’s mama, that like it a little rough and who would just as soon kick the shit out of a pansy-assed nice guy, as talk to his worthless arse.

    They say it takes all types to make the world go around.

    As for the soldier I like what you said:

    If you don’t know any personally but want to mention something, a “welcome home” is good enough.

    You know that’s true.  It’s not fair to make grunts the scapegoat for chickenhawk politicians, whom them kids really wished they could be spitting at.

    Get what I’m saying there?  Does that make any sense?

    #305757

    Guy, you won’t let yourself believe that I can have the deepest respect for the effort, the disciple, the sacrifice, of soldiers.

    Because it pisses you off that at the same time I must acknowledge and be aware that those soldiers were pawns, used and abused with contempt by their leaders.  That the deed they were forced to do, have made our world and nation way more damaged that there was any need for.

    Meaning I can respect and love the soldier, but don’t tell me what he was forced to participate in has won us any freedom – BULL SHIT !!!   quite the opposite ! – it is rapidly turning our world into a even worse hell hole than nature is already setting up for us.

    At least if we as a nation and people were reality based rationalists – we could face our real enemy, a planet that will be waging its own war upon humanity (AGW) – instead we’ve handed our government over to utter insane idiots like Trump and all them …………………… ………………………………………..

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